This is a question that strange enough I have never asked myself. What motivates a woman to have sex? I described before that sex is for women not exclusively a physical experience and that women should feel a sort of emotional closeness to a man to enjoy a sexual encounter. But research by Cindy Meston and David Buss described here at US News shows some surprising results.
The most important reasons for women to have sex is because they are sexually attracted to a man and for the physical pleasure. Reasons related to love and emotional bonding were surprisingly lower on the list. However, when Time magazine described the research results, they did mention that a women’s sexuality tends to be more linked with love and emotional bonding, and that women, more than men, like sex when there’s some kind of emotional connection.
Some other reasons to have sex were surprising or even sad. Some women had sex to get rid of a headache (it truly works, but don’t tell your husband or your migraine excuse will not work anymore), some women have sex to get revenge on partners who were not faithful (sad), some women had sex because they felt sorry for their mate (sadder), and some women had sex to land a job or promotion (even sadder), while others even had sex to get their partner take out the garbage (eh…).
The Daily Mail extracted some parts of the book, which were really interesting. The extracts describe what women find most attractive in men.
- 80% of the women prefer a man who is 6 ft or taller, something which is confirmed by other studies. These found that taller-than-average men have a greater number of girlfriends and more children.
- Women desire strong muscular men with a V-shaped torso, broad shoulders and a lean stomach (Who wants a beer belly? Yuk!)
- Women find men with robust and square-jawed faces the most attractive sex partner. However, for a long term partner we prefer men with less masculine (read: more reliable) faces.
- The same thing can be said about a man’s voice. Women prefer men with a deep voice at any time, but mostly when it comes to finding a prospect for a purely sexual encounter.
- And when it comes to movement, women like men who display large sweeping movements. Latino dancers, for example, are found very sexy and attractive compared to a reeling Scotsman.
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Now we can understand why women find Johnny Depp or Will Smith so attractive, or why women do not think that dancing and singing like Ricky Martin is for sissies. But what can you do as a man, when you do not have these physical features? You can make up with a good sense of humor. A sense of humor shows intelligence and confidence, two important traits in a man, not only for a short sexual relationship. Apparently women are more satisfied with their marriage if they think that their husband is witty (and if they take out the garbage unconditionally).
