Without Dash

This week I had some interesting visitors at Without Dash: The Guys. After commenting on my article “Communicating with men“, I asked them to explain the Guy’s Perspective to us women here. They were very kind giving their perspective on an article I wrote last year “What a man wants“.

Our Inner Ram

Some time ago, a study was done with a Ram and some Ewes. The first day the Ram was put in a pen with one Ewe. The Ram immediately had his way with the Ewe and then took a nap for the rest of the day!! The second day he was put in a pen with twenty Ewes. He proceeded to have his way with each one in succession. One by one, ALL in one day!! The researchers were amazed at their findings! How could this be? How could the Ram have that kind of stamina? (Well….OK…we made that story up, but you get our point.) It really is kind of like that for GUYS. There’s a little Ram in all of us. Or at least that’s what we tell ourselves.

So what does this mean? It means that visual variety does play a big part in our sex drive. However, this does not mean we are chasing skirts all day long. Yes, we think about sex all of the time. And sure we look whenever we can. BUT, and this is a big BUT…. most of us would never risk the relationship we have with our partners, just to be a Ram for a day. We love the women in our lives too much. And we love our families.

So how do we cope? We cope by looking at “those” magazines or websites. We’re not sex addicts, we’re just Rams in human form. The addiction we have is variety, and “those” things give us variety without risking anything of any worth! If this is called sex addiction, so be it, but we consider it marriage counseling. It works for us, and it actually works for the women in our lives because looking at pictures is fantasy. Most of us know that.

So ladies here’s something you may never have thought of. And we’re being very serious here. If you want to put a smile on your partner’s face that stays for a month, bring him home one of those magazines or movies, just for fun. Consider it your version of flowers and chocolate. What will you get? Your husband will have a new appreciation for you. And he might even become that listener you always hoped he would be. All of a sudden he’ll be so interested when you talk about your cat, or how fat you look in your jeans or your best friend’s engagement ring. Truly! And if for some reason he gets offended that you brought him gifts, well he may actually be a Ewe in Ram’s clothing.

So what can you take away from all of this? Three important points.

• Guys do think about sex all of the time. But that’s not a bad thing.
• Most Guys are able to separate fantasy from reality. Also a good thing.
• Sure, Guys like to be in charge, but a little “change-up” from you is most welcome.

So let the GUY in your life strut his inner Ram. Because at the end of the day, he really only has eyes for Ewe.
THE GUYS

Tags: Romance and Relationships