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Relationshopping


I am astounded to read that online dating works, with ten million American couples as proof. And I had never yet heard of the term ‘relationshopping’. I must be quite old-fashioned, but my mum always told me not to give my email address to strangers. She would create a picture in my mind of the Zodiac killer uploading a male model’s picture, in order to kidnap me to cyber world.

But (as with so many other things my mum tried to warn me about) online dating is nothing to be scared of. It is not more dangerous than offline dating. It is just a different way of meeting people.
I had a look at LoveMe.eu to see how exactly this online dating works.

I find that I can browse through profiles and read quite a lot about everyone without signing up, but that I need to be registered and in a ‘relationship’ with the person before I can see all information.
That means creating a profile. After creating a profile, you can start ‘relationshopping’. What a word!

The more I am looking at it, the more it looks like fun. I had forgotten how exciting dating can be. I can feel butterflies already. If I were a single, I might actually want to try online dating. I can see it already. Because I really don’t like go out of my normal routine that much, between home and work and the long standing activities with the same old friends, this could be the way to meet a totally new person.

(Computer dating) It’s terrific if you’re a computer.
Rita Mae Brown

Online dating might just be something for you as well. So, let me give a few tips on how to get on with it safely and effectively.

  • There is no point in lying on your profile. If you are looking for a real relationship, you cannot keep up the pretence of being someone you are not.
  • Read the profiles and not just look at the pictures. You can learn a lot more about a person from their profile than from their picture.
  • Don’t dwell on small talk that much. Everyone joined the site for a reason, and everyone is single. But where some people are effectively searching for a life partner, others are taking it slow and just want to meet likeminded singles. Find out what the other person is looking for and explain your own motives of joining.
  • Ease up on your requirements. No one is perfect, and setting out to find the perfect person will only set people off.
  • Check your spelling and grammar. No serious adult writes in chat slang, and no serious adult is interested in people who do.
  • Use the anonymity of the dating site until you feel safe to give out more details of your identity, and consider talking on the phone before handing out an address.
  • Remember that even though you are online, that doesn’t mean you’ll never meet the other person offline. Be yourself and be realistic.
  • Never send money, no matter how sad the story or how small the request.

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