How to love yourself


These ten tips were written by Louise L. Hay in 1987. Wonderful timeless advice!

  1. Stop all criticism. Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
  2. Stop scaring yourself. Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, (mine is yellow roses) and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
  3. Be gentle and kind and patient. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really love.
  4. Be kind to your mind. Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.
  5. Praise yourself. Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
  6. Support yourself. Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
  7. Be loving to your negatives. Acknowledge that you created them to fulfil a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfil those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
  8. Take care of your body. Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
  9. You can always get someone to love you, even if you have to do it yourself
    Tom Masson
  10. Mirror work. Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day look into the mirror and say: “I love you, I really love you!”.
  11. LOVE YOURSELF - DO IT NOW! Don’t wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship.BEGIN NOW - Do the best you can.

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Comments 3

  1. Stacey wrote:

    What a great post and nice reminder as we kick off the week. Thanks!

    Posted 24 Aug 2009 at 5:15 am
  2. KellieS wrote:

    Hi Suzanne,

    This post is such a wonderful encouragement to me right now. I’ve been thinking some bad thoughts. Thanks, as usual, for your insight.

    Kellie

    Posted 24 Aug 2009 at 8:38 pm
  3. Julehya wrote:

    Great post! I bookmarked it so I can go back to it again and again. I remember a song by Helen Reddy, the lyrics skip me now but it is all about us being the best friend to ourselves.

    Cheers!

    Posted 28 Aug 2009 at 3:50 pm

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