Here is another part of my happiness series. The seven steps are based on the theories of spiritual guru Deepak Chopra. We already discussed physical intelligence and creative intelligence.
What is important to me?
You know who you are and what you want, but what is really important to you? This step to happiness is about mental intelligence. Here you make a choice to connect your identity to external or internal factors.
When you would have to describe yourself, what would you say? Are you going to describe what you look like? Or do you define yourself by what is inside you and what you believe in? You can also ask yourself other questions to find out if you value the external more than the internal. Do you panic when you lose a beautiful piece of jewelry? Do you stay at home on a bad hair day?
Usually we take this step after our puberty, when we become independent, are starting a relationship and obtain material things as car or house. We then start to find out what the really important things in life are and connect with our inner power. We find out that we do not need to seek external confirmation. And as a consequence physical appearances will not be of importance for our happiness. Neither will behavior of others influence your feelings.
If you have a clear picture of what you want, and believe without a doubt that you can do it, it is time to realize that only you are responsible for achieving it. Is it important to you, then why do you not do anything for it? Commit yourself to the things that are important to you. You are cheating on yourself if you know what is important to you, but do not do anything about it.
Deepak Chopra
When you compare life with a car ride, you will notice that many people are sitting in the back seat and are watching how everything is passing by. Do not think that you can’t choose your destiny, but grab the steering wheel of your life.
You can’t go through these steps in a single day. Many people need more than a lifetime to get only halfway through these steps. The next step in the series will be about developing emotional and spiritual intelligence: is this it?
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The mental connection is so important to your happiness. Hopefully, you find the stength in other areas to make good choices for yourself. It’s hard sometimes as habitual behavior becomes your norm (trust me; I know). You can spend a lifetime in the “backseat” waiting to get brave enough to move on up. You know you have made positive change when you call out “shot gun” with zealous intent to occupy.
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