If I had a child, I would be happy. If I had a partner, I would be happy. If my partner was rich, I would be happy. If my children were smart/independent/caring I would be happy.
These are the biggest misunderstandings about happiness. If you are unhappy, you will not be able to enjoy any of the things mentioned. Partners and children of unhappy people feel the pressure of the unspoken task: they have to make their parent or partner happy, because that person is not able to do it on his/her own.
A task like this will always fail. Be happy with yourself and do not compel others to bring happiness to you. Being happy is a choice. The hard part is finding the happiness in yourself by being satisfied with who you are and where you are.
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Posted 15 Nov 2009 at 5:46 pm ¶Living in the present is the key to all of this. And that’s a lot harder than it seems. Good thoughts!!
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Posted 16 Nov 2009 at 8:22 am ¶I really love what you wrote about Happiness Suzanne. That’s why I try to be happy at all times. I try to find beauty in tragedies. I try to be more optimistic in life. And I found this article to be helpful. Thanks for writing it.
Posted 17 Nov 2009 at 5:24 pm ¶I totally live by this rule. It’s very important to feel happy and you are the only one responsible for it…cannot put the blame on others if you aren’t.
Posted 25 Nov 2009 at 10:21 am ¶While I have to admit that many points above are right, I think it’s unfair to say that one should or could be happy at all times.
Yes, one could be a robot, be mentally very strong and be cold to your environment. If you don’t feel sad over injustice for example or any other feelings then you’re not much of a human. Not wanting to stray from the topic, I wanted to say that we can’t deny human nature. It’s not normal to live alone, have no friends, family, no one that loves you, no one to share mutual love with. We weren’t made to live that way, so obviously you can’t expect such a person to be ‘happy’.
I’m bad at making myself clear at times so I will try again
“If I had a child, I would be happy. If I had a partner, I would be happy. If my partner was rich, I would be happy. If my children were smart/independent/caring I would be happy.”
Having children, having a partner, having adequate money (for living okay - not in excess).
These things are all natural. Yes - some people take drugs or get other addictions to make up for the depressions that following an unnatural life leads to, but the fact still remains.
If you keep your life natural and practice patience - (”he who has enough will always have enough” - Lao Tzu)
Being a robot is not going to last very long. It only works in the movies, not real life.
Posted 24 Sep 2010 at 10:26 am ¶I have to agree with most points of all the statements above but, I would like to put my own spin on the topic and see if I can fill in the gaps and tie the knot to what everyone is saying and see if I can bring this whole thing together. I think it is impossible to be happy at all times but we should try our best to focus on the good and not the bad. We should take the good in with the bad, but realize it is all for our good. Cause suffering produces perserverance, which builds character and finaly hope. Then even in the face of suffering we can still have peace and patience because of our understanding. For me knowing God is true happyness cause he gives me the understanding to be even tempered in all situations. Maby not invertably happy but, a calm sense of knowing everything is going to be ok which gives me joy. As it is written: In his presents is the fullness of joy.
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