Many women have this romantic idea of meeting The One, with a spark or lightning bolt hitting them, or shaking legs and chemistry working. But only 40% of people say afterwards that it was love at first sight. Most people do not know with the first meeting that he will become a life partner. Don’t be disappointed when you do not have this “this-is-it-feeling “. Only when you get to know each other, you can develop a clear feeling for a person.
No matter if you have that “this-is-it-feeling” or not, it is better to get to know each other and see if your personalities match or not. Finding the right partner is not only about following your heart, but also about using your brain. You cannot trust on butterflies, because they will only show you the positive characteristics and will cover the negative aspects.
Also, the butterflies will make you feel like having sex. This can be a nice thing, but for women it also means an emotional connection with the person, which can be very painful when you have to let go of it again. Women who are looking for a serious life partner are better of postponing sex. And it says enough about the man who thinks that this is ridiculous or stupid.
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hahaha! well, this is not for me anymore, that’s for sure!
Posted 22 Sep 2009 at 2:31 pm ¶GUYS misinterpret this a lot! When we see someone we think is HOT, we immediately want to have sex! And of course we equate this with love. But it’s really lust!
This is why GUYS often want to bolt after sex and never see the person again. It’s confusing for GUYS to be so into someone until the “event” is over, and then all of a sudden wake up from this dream and wonder, “HOW did I get here?” And just want to run.
Without an emotional bond, GUYS will always want to escape.
Well said!
Posted 24 Sep 2009 at 4:33 pm ¶Thanks for your perspective, GUYS. It may sound a little old fashioned to postpone sex, but I really believe that it means something else for women than for men. We feel an emotional connection when being intimate with someone, while for a man it might not be the case.
Posted 24 Sep 2009 at 7:53 pm ¶Breaking an emotional connection is quite painful and somehow us women find it hard to have uncomplicated sex…
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