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Love yourself before you can love others. It sounds like a cliché, but is a proven fact. Women who appreciate themselves will experience stronger feelings of love for a partner. They will also recognize ‘The One’ easier when he shows up, because women with a high self esteem will not think negatively that much. And they will also not start a relationship with someone because ‘they think they cannot get better’. Besides, smooth talk will have less affect on these women. They do not long for attention and confirmation as much, because they feel good already. So, when you are trying to find The One, self esteem is essential.

• Make a list of positive statements about yourself. Start every sentence with “I…”, for example “I always help out a friend in need”, or “I can cook well”. Read these sentences out loud every day. It will make you more aware of your positive sides. It may sound like a silly thing to do, but research shows that it improves self esteem and decreases shyness.
• Do not aim too high. If you ‘have to’ achieve a lot of things, it is easy to get disappointed with yourself. Nobody can be nice, friendly, beautiful, happy, attentive, etc, when they have to be. Try to change the ‘have to’ to ‘want to’ or ‘can’. Instead of ‘have to be good at it’, it will become ‘want to be good at it’, but if it doesn’t work out, you do not feel like a failure.
• Observe yourself. Compare yourself with the sky and let little clouds of negative feelings float by. See how you are still the same blue sky. Or visualize yourself next to a lake. Put your negative feelings on little leaves and push them away on the water. By doing exercises like this, you can let go of the negative feelings.
• More ideas were discussed here, in the article “How to love yourself”

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