If I had a child, I would be happy. If I had a partner, I would be happy. If my partner was rich, I would be happy. If my children were smart/independent/caring I would be happy.
These are the biggest misunderstandings about happiness. If you are unhappy, you will not be able to enjoy any of the things mentioned. Partners and children of unhappy people feel the pressure of the unspoken task: they have to make their parent or partner happy, because that person is not able to do it on his/her own.
A task like this will always fail. Be happy with yourself and do not compel others to bring happiness to you. Being happy is a choice. The hard part is finding the happiness in yourself by being satisfied with who you are and where you are.
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A four leaf clover is said to bring good luck. White clover in particular was held in high esteem by the early Celts of Wales as a charm against evil spirits. Some say that a four leaf clover was a sign of a fairy or elf, which meant that miracles could happen. Others say that [...]
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Happiness Facts #4: A four leaf clover "
Dr. Martin Seligman identified three kinds of happy lives:
A pleasant life: this involves having as much pleasure as you can. You can learn techniques to have more and longer pleasures and you can take shortcuts to pleasures like using drugs or go shopping.
An engaged life: this is about involvement and absorption in something like work, [...]
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Happiness Facts #3: Three types of happiness. "
Questions about happiness only started to rise during the Renaissance. Enlightened thinkers wondered if it was possible to be happy on earth. Before the seventeenth century people only believed in the viewpoint of the Church that it is impossible to experience happiness since Adam and Eve were expelled from paradise. Prosperity brought the freedom to [...]
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Happiness Facts #2: Happiness research "
I often sit behind the computer thinking: “What should I blog about today?” or “Is there anything at all that I can Tweet about that might be interesting to a stranger?” I do not even want to discuss FaceBook, because I only signed up in the hope it would help my blog, but actually never [...]
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Social Notworking? Not for me. "
Research shows that happiness is contagious. A smile attracts a smile. A happy person is likely to make someone else happy. Just as people are more likely to smoke when friends smoke, or get obese, when friends are obese, happiness also spreads like a virus. It does not only affect people in direct contact, but [...]
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Happiness Facts #1: Happiness is contagious. "
As I wrote in the article “The truth about motherhood”, is it very hard for mothers to do anything right. Choices are always criticized by one party or another. But this is not only about the caring and disciplining of small children. It goes on until far in adulthood. Children, other mothers and experts will [...]
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What about the father? "
